"If Pakistan wants to have better relationship with Afghanistan, it better do it with friendlier means," the Afghanistan Ambassador to the US, Hamdullah Mohib told a Washington audience during an event organised by New America Foundation, a top US think-tank.
"Pakistan have been trying to do it with forceful method," Mohib said as he cautioned Islamabad against trying to impose its will on the people of Afghanistan.
"As they (Pakistan) know through history that (forceful method) would not work. Every time there is an attack in Afghanistan the perception is that Pakistan allowed that attack. What kind of friendship is that?" Mohib asked.
"I can't speak of security in Afghanistan without talking about terrorist safe havens in Pakistan," he said, adding this is the biggest cause of concern for Afghanistan and its war against terrorism.
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"The objective fact is, victory in Afghanistan requires a paradigm shift in American thinking about Pakistan," Mohib said, ruling that there has not been much change in the policies of Pakistan.
Mohib said Afghanistan would like to see a peaceful and stable Pakistan as this is in its national interest.
Mohib said the goal of the international community should be to win the war in Afghanistan and not how not to lose.
"We need to shift the mentality from not losing in Afghanistan to winning there. We must win," he said.
"Win is only way forward. This is the only way forward for the people of Afghanistan," he said.