I come from a place where funerals of the young are political events, mourning is permanent politics, and the people are in a constant battle between memory and forgetfulness,” writes Gowhar Geelani, whose book, Kashmir: Rage and Reason, is a reality check for Indians who think peace can come to the valley via curfews and communication clampdowns, and the promise of economic growth can magically erase the evidence of bloodshed. Self-determination is too precious a dream to give up, so those who make it their vocation are celebrated as heroes. Kashmir is a place where tombstones of slain militants are